My Son Was Diagnosed With ADHD in 10 Minutes By a Computer

My son was diagnosed with ADHD by a computer. That’s how they do it, apparently.

We, his parents, each filled out a form. His teacher filled one out as well. The forms are fed through a computer (I don’t know) and the results are spat out. Scores over 70% are considered a clinical diagnosis. I think there were five categories and he scored into the 90’s in some of them, and over 70 in all but one.

If this all sounds a bit vague, my brain is whirring around so much information. I just can’t process it all. I wish you could record these meetings, because how is it possible to store all this valuable information you’re being given?

The doctor took me by surprise when he told me as I hadn’t expected to be given a diagnosis that day. He told me they would diagnose our boy with ADHD based on the results, handed me some printouts with some recommended reading, mentioned parenting classes, family therapy and medication and sent me on my merry way with my handouts.

I don’t think I spent more than ten minutes with him.

Can a Computer Diagnose adhd in 10 Minutes?

Whilst it was a shock to hear a professional tell you your son has ADHD, it hardly came a surprise to me. This is why we had gone to the Lucena Clinic in the first place, at the suggestion of his teacher, along with our own concerns. And yet, I just didn’t feel that was the end of the story.

I know my son, and I felt there was something more. Something else was going on to explain his low moods and extreme emotional over-reactions and sensitivity. If I were to describe it, I would say he has tantrums that I’d expect of my two year old; he is six.

He will push and push at an argument until everyone is shouting and in tears; this will seem to lead to some kind of catharsis for him, and then, whilst I will be emotionally drained, a maelstrom of guilt and exhaustion, he will be perfectly happy and can continue on as if nothing ever happened. As if we weren’t a family on the brink.

And so I asked the lead Social Worker on my boy’s case if she would do an ADOS (autism diagnosis observation schedule) test. Of course, I had trawled the internet in my desperation, and had identified certain behaviors sometimes present in people with ASD which seemed to fit with my boy. These were, namely: Aggression, causing self-injury, tantrums, unusual mood or reactions, unusual reaction to the way things sound, smell, taste, look or feel. An onlooker would just see him as a naughty boy, pushing boundaries.  Sensing my desperation, she said yes, she would, but that she would expect him to do quite well.

This week, we went back to get the feedback from the ADOS test. She gave us a narrative of what he had done well on and what he’d struggled with. It all sounded quite positive. Then she said, ‘”we’re diagnosing him with Autism Spectrum Disorder.”

The emotions suddenly swelled up inside me; fear, relief, uncertainty, sadness and, what I’m realizing in retrospect, was shame. Shame at all the times I’ve shouted at him, got angry and frustrated with him and called him naughty.

It’s not his fault.

It’s not my fault either.

It’s who he is, how his brain works.

The label doesn’t matter, we all know that. But I suddenly feel like I understand him better. Which sounds strange, I know.

So much of my frustration came from not being able to comprehend why he would do things that just seemed so obviously wrong, or why he would react so intensely to the slightest injury or offense. The discussion with the social worker about the workings of his brain, has shed light on that and everything has clicked.

The incomprehensible suddenly makes sense.

I know it’s up to me now to step up to the plate, to give him the support he needs and be his champion. He has so many skills we can nurture and develop to ensure he fulfills his potential, and this diagnosis will help us do that. It also means that he will get extra support in the class-room, which is vital in ensuring he doesn’t fall behind at this key stage.

It’s also important we recognize as a family that this is hard for everyone; me, my husband, our daughter and of course our boy himself. How exhausting his life must be for him.

We all need to learn the value of walking away, calming down, breathing space and respite.

I’m sure I will think of a hundred questions over the next few days as the news sinks in, in the meantime, I have some serious reading to do. You think you know about ADHD and Autism, but when I picture a typical ADHD kid, I don’t picture my son. Which just goes to show how little I know about it all. So, to the books and message forums I go.

I’d love to hear from you if you have any experience of parenting a child with ADHD/ASD or any recommendations of where to look for advice.

Can a Computer Diagnose adhd in 10 Minutes?

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One thought on “My Son Was Diagnosed With ADHD in 10 Minutes By a Computer

  1. Thank you Lisa. I was very surprised to say the least when a diagnosis was made in that way , and medication was mentioned without any level of discussion. It’s not something we are considering at all at the moment . We need to explore all other options first. For us, the ASD diagnosis is priority as it is what is causing most distress for him and us at the moment: so learning how to manage and live with that is key. Thanks so much for your thoughts. Beth

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